Be Your Spouse’s BFF
Do you remember the early days when you couldn’t wait to spend more time with that special someone? You were so excited to share what happened at work… or about that funny thing that you saw that guy do on the way to that place?
I do.
And as much as I love my wife and wouldn’t trade her for the world I have to admit that it is easy to fall into routines and patterns that allow me to become complacent and take her for granted. The next thing you know, if I’m not intentional, the excitement wears off and we are more like roommates than the most important person in each other’s life.
Fortunately I do make an effort and that pays off. Our relationship still has life and she’s still my BFF. So how do I do that? I read of lot of christian marriage blogs, study marriage books/videos in my small group, and most importantly, study her on date nights (e.g. every monday we have a “mini date” at Starbucks for 45 minutes while our son is at TKD). Of course studying alone won’t do it. I put into practice what I learn.
So how can YOU keep the daily grind from dissolving away your relationship? Start by checking out Ten Steps to a Deeper Friendship With Your Spouse by Alyson Weasley. Brett found this article recently and it encapsulates a lot of simple steps you can take to keep your friendship alive. Then just pick one thing off the list you aren’t currently doing and do it.
There you go… marriage tip of the day.